Dating & Break-ups | Part 2- Things We Need In A Relationship

Things We Need In A Relationship

Men & Women

When we’re in a relationship there are some things we want and expect to get from our ‘significant other’ and if we don’t get it we, as K Camp says “cut that bihh off”, am I right?

1) Feel loved?

I say this because girls want to be seen, be heard, be appreciated and be safe by their men. No one wants to be in a relationship to feel lonely, that defeats the purpose of having someone ‘there’. We want to feel loved, be loved and adored. This is just how girls are; they want to be nurtured, though they are nurturers. They want to hear I love you, no matter how much you guys think they hear it or already know you do.

2) Being Sensitive and Vulnerable

Women like talking about things and when they do talk, most times they like detailed information. Unlike guys who don’t do too well when it comes to details, they’ll either say nothing or say too little. When its times to show strong emotional feelings or just ‘feelings’ there are quite a few men who, let’s just say some lose a ball or two. Send her cute messages, do check up calls, let her know how much you care, put faith in you two and trust that she won’t take advantage of your feelings. Same goes the other way around!

3) Great Listener

Girls like to talk, we like to vent and share how we feel with others and we need someone other than our girl best-friends to do that with and I’m not talking about gossips. As men, you don’t have to ‘talk’, but give some feedback and advice, let her know she’s not alone talking to herself. Just listening makes her feel she can count on you and that’s what you need her to believe, because guess what, you men wear the pants (or do you?) 😆

4) Sex

First off there are many different types of sex, and I’m not talking about the one you do with an outsider because you just wanted it so bad you hooked up with someone and did a ‘quickie’, oh, “ I didn’t mean for it to happen, it just did bs”. We are focusing on the one you share with your partner in the most intimate way possible, the one that is yours and yours alone, PERIOD! Men dislike non stagnant sex, you don’t have to be ‘kinky or a freak’ just change things up a bit, keep him/things interesting and spicy, you don’t want to be known as someone “lame inna bed” (boring).

5) Someone who has their sh*t together aka Ambition

Not saying you have to be the richest person on earth, but have some goal, a plan. You can’t be broke, lazy, lost and unemployed, who would want to be with you if you don’t even have yourself together? I mean, you can start from the ‘bottom’ but you can’t stay there forever. Challenges are good, but no one will want to carry that ‘baggage’ around with them all the time. You need a partner to push you and motivate you for self improvement, there’s nothing better than grinding together.

6) Happiness

You need someone who displays the same interest as you, or they’ll be nothing to talk about and that fire you think you guys had will burn out quickly. Find someone who is compatible for you, someone who won’t let you change your appearance or make you feel insecure. Find someone who gets how goofy, weird or crazy you are, and still accepts you. Someone who makes you laugh, have a better sense of humor than you, someone who’s a good texter and conversation holder and lastly someone worth bragging about because you know they are and will be worth it! 😛



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  • Victor

    This is all very true … But relationships of this century involves too much false happiness … Happiness granted by material things such as a driving man and etc … For a relationship to prosper a main ingredient is genuine feelings not feelings induced by vanity

    June 14, 2015 at 3:32 am Reply
    • Kristen

      So true, I know quite a few people who only gets with someone because of something they have to offer, and I don’t mean feelings. However info believe happiness in this “century” do still exist. I see everyday!

      June 14, 2015 at 3:55 am Reply
  • jameala henry

    Couldn’t av said it better 🙂 ..yearning for your next update 😀

    June 14, 2015 at 3:40 am Reply
  • David

    Good post we all want the same things well most of us . We are also all opportunist because we all want something.

    June 14, 2015 at 3:42 am Reply
  • Victor

    I’m not saying it doesn’t exist …. As I myself use to have it … But these days its really hard to find that’s all … It all comes down to the big question … “Can I really trust her/him”?

    June 14, 2015 at 3:59 am Reply
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